32 Truths


In honor of my 32nd birthday, I’ve compiled 32 “truths” learned over what some would consider my brief time on this Earth. Although the list is not in any way all-inclusive as I could easily go beyond 32, it’s real and genuine and a reminder to find opportunities for growth in both the ups and downs of life.

  1. When you lose someone you love, nothing anyone says makes it better. However, tragedy happens and it’s important not to allow the loss to become the focus of your life.
  2. I love my father and sister dearly and hope they know how much they mean to me.
  3. Thinking positive thoughts really does make some situations better.
  4. Spending quality time with my family centers me and produces a sense of calm.
  5. Don’t overanalyze! Often it’s best to just take things at face value and keep on moving.
  6. The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.
  7. If I expect loyalty from others I must be willing to put selfish desires aside and give what I yearn to get.
  8. Saying Yes can be far worse and more damaging than saying No.
  9. When I’ve been disappointed by others it’s typically because I put expectations on them without their knowledge.
  10. Just because I can rationalize my actions doesn’t mean they’re right.
  11. My mother and grandmother speak, motivate, inspire, and admonish me from the grave.
  12. I will never apologize for asking a lot of questions. It’s been quite beneficial thus far.
  13. Every time I’ve told a guy I loved him, it meant something different. Love is more than a verb, it’s a reflection of where one is on their spiritual and emotional journey.
  14. Working out is my way of respecting my body, my mind, and my spirit.
  15. Even though I show strength in moments when others assume they wouldn’t doesn’t mean there aren’t times when I need help.
  16. Having a passport is a requirement.
  17. If I can’t see you in my future – you probably shouldn’t be in my present.
  18. Iyanla is right – you have to do the work.
  19. Don’t enable people to make bad decisions.
  20. “If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” – Paulo Coelho
  21. Everyone smiling in your face isn’t cheering for your success.
  22. Forgiveness is a powerful notion, requiring us to see someone else’s truth.
  23. Having boundaries and demanding respect isn’t ego, it’s articulating your self worth. “I’m not perfect but I’m worth it”
  24. Peach County High & FAMU were some memorable years and I met some amazing people.
  25. Writing is therapeutic and I can’t promise I’ll ever write a happy-go-lucky story.
  26. Only those that experience an “ism” can determine if it’s no longer an issue in society. If you don’t face sexism, racism, ageism, etc., it’s not your right to say it’s dead.
  27. Some people will drain you dry (of money, time, patience) if you let them.
  28. No one has ever found success through laziness.
  29. Some of the best things in life are not free – but they’re worth it.
  30. Trust is so fragile and once it’s broken you cannot undo the damage. You can only hope to rebuild something stronger and more reliable.
  31. My mother was intelligent and while I can appreciate her giving me a good head start, what I chose to do with it is All Me. Hard work, courage and perseverance should be respected.
  32. You is smart, you is kind, you is important. – The Help

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